The world today...

Its amusing sometimes, not in the happy funny sense but more in the depressing element.

I was suppose to be watching Enchanted today but as things wasn't finalised, aeroplane flew by. Since i'd told my dad this morning that i wont be home for dinner, i started to find friends to have dinner with. I tried one aft another aft another and noone was free. Believe it or not, i asked 4 paxs, my closest friends and non was free. With 2 on dates and 2 heading home for dinner.

In the end i have to settle for homecooked food. Not complaining here. Just that, sometimes when you wanna find someone to be with, you just cant. Everyone with the highest chance of being free, is not. 3 out of 4 are singles and they are just not free. And when i'm not free and going out, i have ppl from everywhere asking me out. Its funny how life is, isn't it.

This is not the first time that had happened to me and i bet it wont be the last. Times when i feel the loneliest, i cant find anyone. Times when i'm just too tired and want a break from the spinning earth, everyone wants me.

I know i'm not the only one facing this but well, just have to live with it.

Yesterday while lunch-ing with my colleagues, one was telling us of this email that had been circulating banks(i presume). Its about this lady who blogs on her life with an unfaithful husband.

The story roughly goes like this..

This lady is expecting her first child and is currently about 8mths pregant, couple mths back, her doting and loving husband changed job to a bank in ORQ and went overseas for 3 wks to undergo training. When he came back, he was a changed man. He wants time to himeself, leave his home at night which he never did before he left. Let his wife takes public transport when shes pregnant where before he left, he always drive her around and refuse to let her travel on PT.

The lady soon found out the reasons for his changed behaviour. The three wks he was away, he came to knew of another female colleague who had recently ROMed. The latter was in her mid twenties, the male was in his early thirties. They are now together.

He divorced the lady for his new love when the lady is already couple of mths pregnant with his child. They knew each other since poly, went overseas together for uni, renovated their new aptm, look forward to their first baby.

8 years of relationship all gone after a 3 wks trip.

She mentioned that he told her that he's sick of her crying whereas he's weak when his new one cries. She mentioned that he accused her for forcing him to have the baby. She mentioned that him leaving her all alone at home was to go meet up with his new love. She mentioned that her having to take PT home alone was so that he can go fetch his new love in their car.

After reading 2 posts from her blog which was paste in the email, i really do not know how i feel.

Like, whos at fault? Can we point finger at anyone here? Of course the recently ROMed young thing seems like the bitch in the picture and the husband is the irresponsible jerk. But if you look from their point of view, are they not the victims too?

What if, they are actually meant for each other, just that the timing was too late?

What if after all that they have been thru, couple of mths down the road aft putting down everything they once had, they realised what a big mistake they had made and by then, its too late for regret.

There are so many what ifs, and any can possibly happens.

So, how shld anyone actully feels toward this situation?

1. Shld the guy stop his new fling or shldnt even start one when he knows that he's married, his wife is pregnant, the girl is engaged even when he feels that shes the one for him at that moment?

2. Shld the young thing control her emotions, lust or greed(watever) and stayed away from him when he knows that he's a married man and she herself with a man waiting for her back in sg?

Shld they? Or shld they not?

I'm really confuse with the world today. Whats the point of getting married when the rate of divorce is shooing thru the roof?

Why are ppl having affairs everywhere? Its not just happening in dramas where the males are rich and powerful while the mistress are pretty slim things who wants nothing but money. I've seen/heard of newly weds not reaching 2 yrs of their married lives fooling outside, couples having children or already have youngsters in the family as well as older couples with children whom are already in colleages. Why is all this happening?

I'd asked a couple of guy friends this qn, 'Will you ever fool around after you are married?' And more than often, their ans is yes. And the reasons they gave are 95% similar. 'If my wife can't satisfied me, i will. If my wife works too much and not have enough time for me, i will.' Are these reasons enough to cover up for their misdeeds?

So does that means that if the husband cant satisfied the wife, she shld go out and find someone who can? Does that also means if the male works too hard n too much for the family, the wife shld find someone who can spend time with her? What kinda logics are these anyway?

When the husband have affairs, they blame it on the wives. Did they even try to talk things out with their wives? Did they ask for their opinions? Did they try to understand each other? Most imptly, did they even communicate?

Really, whats the point of getting married if you can't stay married for long. How den can we put a stop to failling relationships? How can we get both parties to love unconditionally? How can we prevent feelings frm going away? How can we stop making empty promises?

Where does love goes when it disappear? Is there another place where it will be at, waiting for you to collect it once again?

During one of my down periods, i have a friend who always accompany me when i asked. He once told me, ' He who lost you, lost more than what you have lost.' He latter explained, ' You lost a person who loves you no more, whereas he lost someone who loves him much. Hence he lost more than you.'

I wasnt able to understand that sentence then as i was hurting a damn lot. But now i can. N frm time to time, i use it to console myself, to remind myself how fortunate i was and i am because i'm not the biggest loser.

Thank you for bringing me to ECP and giving me the wish that you 'catch' with your bare hand. Most imptly, thanks for being there when i needed someone and i know you are still here, just a couple of blocks away, a msg away.

Breakie someday? With moo moo?

Fear not Serene(if u ever read this), he's nt my cup of tea. I'm more interested in you... ;p

The world today...